Dear Ms. Vicki
I am a SAHM (stay-at-home mom) and I choose to do so by doing without the extra Mercedes, the expensive SUV or the 3,500 square foot house. Instead I am available to my children, volunteer at their schools, and make sure they are able to participate in sports, etc. My husband earns a good living for us even though we struggle financially on one income. I find myself defending my position to working moms in my community. Some say our children won’t have any life skills, and that I am putting myself at risk because I am depending on my husband for financial stability. Whose business is it that I am a stay-at-home mom? Why should I have to defend myself or my desire to forego a career to be at home with my children?
-Happy To Stay Home
Dear Happy
It’s no one’s business that you choose to be a stay-at-home mom. The choice is yours. If you are happy about this decision, then you wouldn’t feel the need to defend your position. In my opinion, it’s nothing to discuss. Being a stay-at-home mom is an honorable position and nothing to be ashamed about. I hope your husband and your children appreciate everything you do and your sacrifices for your family. My advice, don’t take part in the conversation with working moms who want to compare or make you feel insecure for your choices. If you truly believe in what you are doing, then you must be confident about your choice.
– Ms.Vicki
About Vicki
Hi! My name is Ms. Vicki and I’m a native of Dallas. I’m married to an active-duty Soldier and we have three sons. I’ve always had a gift for giving quick advice and steering people in the right direction. I have a Master’s of Science in Social Work from the University of Louisville and I’m a Licensed Clinical Social Worker. I provide services for a wide array of concerns such as combat stress, PTSD, couples and marital problems, depression, grief and loss, stress and coping, etc. Find out more at my website
